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Home > Confidence coaching > Mastering Self Sabotage: 7 Secrets to Unlock Your Potential

Mastering Self Sabotage: 7 Secrets to Unlock Your Potential

mastering self sabotage, think of your potential (coaching tip)

Self-sabotage often masks itself as an enemy, but it’s more like a protector, shielding us from the unknowns and fears that come with reaching our deepest desires. In this quest, we explore self-sabotage’s intricacies, aiming to disarm it. Let’s unveil the seven secrets to conquer self-sabotage and unlock your true potential.

1st secret: Make a Vision

Without a vision, people perish. Let’s examine ‘your’ bigger picture of what you’re trying to achieve specifically.

When you make your vision or goal deeply meaningful and BIG, you will automatically be pulled by its vision instead of being pushed by fear, getting stuck and sidetracked by the petty little side-tracking tyrants this produces.

These are also recognized in your self-sabotaging and emotionally controlled behaviors and actions. It’s akin to children not understanding the complete WHY behind what they’re required to do, missing the core inspiration for doing it.

Action item: Expand and position your goal with your grander vision to maximize its power of materialization.


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2nd secret: What is your purpose?

What is the true intention and purpose behind what you’re trying to do? Why do you want to do this in the first place? Are you trying to please yourself, someone else, or engaging in people-pleasing behavior that muddles your authentic values of purpose?

Crystal clarity about your “genuine purpose” uplifts and propels your desire for action and service to the next level of actualization, creating ultimate momentum in its achievement. Be explicit about your “purpose-driven intention” as to why you chose it initially and what you aim to gain from it, allowing you to let go, pivot, or achieve.

Action item: Honestly clarify your reason behind the purpose of Your Action, including any underlying motives, to redirect your purpose.

3rd secret: Connect to your soul

How authentic, soul-centered, and connected to your core, highest, and best self is the goal you’re trying to achieve, personally or professionally?

When you start anything from who you authentically ARE, you break through the fog of confusion, procrastination, and resistance, ascending to a higher plateau.

This process facilitates a clarification stemming from your soul-connection in tune with your truest intentions.It evokes feelings of exuberance, belonging, confidence, and integrated action, as opposed to a state of disconnection driven by your ego’s need for speedy results.

This often manifests as reactivity, anxiousness, scattered thoughts, autopilot actions, and being uncentered and ungrounded.


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Action item: Before doing anything, check-in with your “being” self, and get centered within it to navigate from your soul-directed-self and purpose.

4th secret: Make it a joyful journey

Every action has its ups and downs, valleys, and rivers.

To uncover the root of self-sabotage, delve into the feeling state of the task or action you’re trying to avoid. What does it “feel” like? Can you shift your perspective and recognize that doing it might empower you and produce a desired result?

Often, pushing through discomfort leads to a brighter outcome, leaving you with a sense of fulfillment. Your goal thrives when you’re in a state of feeling good, in joyful alignment, generating exuberant connectedness, flow, value-recognition, freedom, and light-hearted inspiration.

Action item: Ask yourself if what you’re doing generates an exuberant, harmonious, and confident feeling state.

5th secret: Stay focused

The clarity of deliberate focus and action as the captain of your own ship cannot be underestimated.

It’s easy to get sidetracked by the ego’s seduction of misfitting fears, which are not worthy of your attention or a place at the head of your vision-table, purpose, soul connection, joyful endeavor, decisiveness, and personal energy alignment.

As a deliberate creator, practicing the discipline of keeping your eye on the ball is crucial.

Action item: Daily check-in with your top priorities to maintain your focus.

6th secret: Make a thoughtful choice

Deliberate choice is a powerful conduit to initiate action and maintain momentum, regardless of your focus area.

Choices often lead to multiple small or significant decisions, creating a multiplying effect that propels you forward.This avoids getting stuck in confusion, delays, and procrastination.


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Action item: After integrating the previous secrets, make decisions promptly and clarify your next choice of action.

7th secret: Is it energy aligned?

For ultimate alignment and the fulfillment of your desires and goals, personal energy alignment is essential. Similar to aligning your car to prevent veering off the road, aligning your personal energy is critical.

Hastily taken actions that sidestep alignment can sabotage your core, not aligning with what has true heart and meaning.

Action item: Practice inner-oriented alignment to BE before you DO, creating a foundation for what you want to achieve.

Conclusion: Embrace your power

In the journey to disarm self-sabotage, we’ve explored the hidden intricacies of our minds and hearts. We’ve unveiled the secrets that can lead us to a life of purpose, joy, and fulfillment.

Remember, self-sabotage is not your enemy; it’s a guardian of the familiar. Trust in your authentic self, and you’ll discover the strength to break free from its grasp.



If you want to get more from your life, and are looking for concrete action steps to get you there, check out our Request a Coach page. It’s a “cut the fence-sitting and take action” way to tackle your issues and actually find success. You’ll be matched with the coaches most suited to you to get you from where you are to where you want to be. To get off the fence and start to take action, click or tap here.



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