The First Relationship to Have is With Yourself!

Love yourself first!

People often wonder why they can’t find a fulfilling relationship. They often see others and feel envious, wishing it was them.  Most people don’t want to be alone but we often end up that way.  

To have a healthy relationship with anyone the relationship should start with you first! After all, how can you know how to love someone else, spend time with someone else, consider others’ feelings, goals, dreams and desires if you haven’t not done the same for yourself?

Here are some simple tips to get you started on your primary relationship, the one with yourself:

• Learn how to date yourself – take yourself out on the town for lunch, dinner or a movie.
• Love the skin you’re in – stop trying to be something you’re not. The new person in your life will find out who you are eventually and then they’ll have to learn to love you all over again, or not!
• Speak to yourself the way you would want to be spoken to. If you’re always badmouthing you to YOURSELF, imagine how that looks to a potential mate.
• Forgive yourself for past shortcomings. Living with regrets and unforgiveness of self can spill over to resentment of shortcomings of your new mate and unforgiveness of anything they do wrong.
• Create your space plan. Know that when you do find someone else, you will still need a lot of time to yourself to be alone and to reflect on who you are.

Finding a mate isn’t always easy but when you do it’s best to be ready. Many people have found a great person only to ruin the relationship because they weren’t ready. So start by loving and being in a relationship with yourself so you can be the best person for the next great guy or gal that comes along!

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