Valentine’s Day! Should You Contact Your Ex Or Send A Gift?

This is Coach Lee, and in this video, I’m going to discuss Valentine’s Day, which many of you watching probably dread at this point. It’s completely understandable. Take a moment to click the subscribe button below so you can be notified when I have more content related to relationships, mindfulness, marriage, and breakups.

When you think of Valentine’s Day, it likely brings anxiety and concern. You may worry about what your ex might do on Valentine’s Day. Based on the comments on my channel, emails, and conversations with clients, the biggest question is whether you should contact your ex on Valentine’s Day or send them a gift, like flowers or chocolates.

I recall a client who struggled with Valentine’s Day and had several coaching calls with me due to his concerns. He wanted his ex to feel special and didn’t want her to be without a gift. However, I suspected he believed that giving her a gift would make her love him again. Despite my advice not to send the gift, he left flowers and chocolates on her doorstep without a name.

In truth, he wanted to win her back with his gesture. In a way, he was trying to bribe her to love him again. It’s essential to consider whether you’d want someone back solely because of a well-chosen gift. You could be appealing to their selfish side, which isn’t a solid foundation for a lasting relationship.

Sending a gift to your ex on Valentine’s Day could make them pity you, which harms attraction. Pity doesn’t resurrect attraction; instead, it weakens it. Moreover, sending a gift doesn’t show inner strength and can be perceived as a form of bribery. Your ex could even become angry because they might feel you’re not respecting their decision to break up.

My Emergency Breakup Kit provides a guide on how to get your ex back, based on my 20 years in the relationship recovery service. Click the link in the description below for more information.

It’s important to remember that sending a gift on Valentine’s Day or contacting your ex could push them further away, solidify you as a backup plan, and eliminate the fear of loss. This can harm your chances of getting your ex back. Trust in the process and avoid giving in to the temptation of reaching out on Valentine’s Day or any other special occasion.

Though it’s not guaranteed to work 100% of the time, the success rate of letting your ex come to you is significantly higher than trying to force the situation. Trust my experience and observations based on thousands of cases. Hit the subscribe button below for more videos like this.

This has been Coach Lee, and as always, thank you for watching.