Stop Complaining and Start Creating – How to Create Your Life Regardless of Circumstance

How to create better circumstances in life

“…I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.”

– George Bernard Shaw, Mrs. Warren’s Profession

So here is a quick tip on how to get out in life and start creating a better one instead of complaining about the one you have!  Like I use to do when I was a young lad…

First, let’s talk about the problem

The problem is that the people who don’t reach their goals are usually the ones who complain about it. 

They blame other things or other people for not being able to achieve their goals.

How can you be successful if your failures are always somebody else’s fault or something beyond what is reasonable to control yourself?  

So here is the toughest lesson I ever had in life prior to my heart attack.

You need to take responsibility for yourself and stop blaming others.

The problem with this mindset of blame, however, seems that the more often it’s used as an excuse not just by individuals but organizations themselves in general across all industries around the world – governments included. But I digress.

• You need to take responsibility for your own actions. It is not good to blame others for your failures because it will not make you successful.
• It’s hard to be successful if you’re always blaming others or circumstances for your failures.

Why would you want to hand over so much power to a person or a circumstance anyway?

I should know because I spent a large part of my life locked up due to being bitter, mad, frustrated, and just angry at the world because of what I thought my parents did or didn’t do for me!

I use to spend my time with an angry look on my face. Using it as a defense mechanism!

My thought process back then was “If my own parents could do me harm, then what’s to stop a complete stranger from doing the same thing?”

I bought into the fear factor! I used my energy to create what I DID NOT WANT instead of creating a better version using the power of my mind.

I soon realized that one of the worst things I could do is to focus on what’s not working in my life and playing the victim role thinking I had nothing to do with how I got to this station in life.

Boy, was I oh so wrong about that!

After years of soul searching and now learning how to shift my focus from what I FEAR or don’t want in my life to focusing on what I can create despite current circumstances, I was finally ready to do the work.

Focus on the positives

So let’s switch gears and place our focus on how we can create a better life instead of wait on one!

I can promise you this.  If you are willing to put in the work and do just one thing daily, you too can begin to create the life of your dreams and be happy for the journey.

It’s not as much about the destination anyway as much as it should be about the ride!

Lets focus on solutions you can take action on so you can create a better life.

Know this

Go-getters will always reach what they are striving towards. They never let circumstances get in the way.

They create their own success by getting up and looking for what they want in life, instead of complaining about what they can’t have.

If you want to be a go-getter then you’ll want to know about how important it is to set clear goals and take action on them every day until you’ve reached your dreams!

Let’s break it down into six focus points

1. Identify the circumstances you want in life.
2. Set goals for your desired circumstances.
3. Create habits that will help you achieve your desired circumstance. 
4. Get rid of bad habits that will get in the way of achieving the desired circumstance 
5. Repeat steps 1-4 until you have achieved your desired circumstances or new, better ones!
6. Share what has changed with others who might be interested in making their own changes!

A quick note about your focus

• You will get what you pay close attention to
• The law of attraction suggests that “like attracts like”
• Find greater happiness in your life by focusing on the things you want instead of the things you don’t want

But what if I need more help?

When I first got serious about changing my own life instead of blaming others, the practice was HARD! 

Notice I used the word PRACTICE because all of life is but a practice right and it’s always going to be hard at first until you get enough practice. 

Besides, think about it this way. There is NO ONE on earth who came out of the womb running full sprints right? 

NO!

We all had to learn how to walk through practice and now we all take that granted too!

So let me give you more ammunition for your voyage to your best life!

DO THIS

• Worry less about what you don’t want to happen and think more about your desired outcomes
• Clear up self-doubt, limiting beliefs, procrastination, and other mental blocks that prevent success
• Focus on where you want to go in life; set goals; meet them; feel good
• Enjoy the feeling of accomplishment

Everything I have listed in this article has come by way of 17 years of self-examination and insight into my own life.  The lessons I have learned have been life-changing.  

Now that you know how to create habits for the life you want, it’s time to take action.

• Make sure your goals are specific and measurable so they can be tracked more easily.
• If something doesn’t seem like a good idea or isn’t working out as planned, let go of it and try again with another approach until you find what works best for you!
• Remember, there is no “one size fits all” solution when it comes to changing habits; we’re all different in some way.

But if I’ve helped one person change their habit successfully then this article was worth writing.

So have fun creating those new habits and remember – now is always better than later!