Kirsten Alexander

About Me

I’m Kirsten Alexander, a certified Life Coach and Christian Counsellor, and I help people rebuild after emotional abuse, narcissistic relationships, and long seasons of self-silencing. My work is rooted in a simple truth: you are not broken – you’ve just had to survive.

For much of my life, I was searching for stability and belonging. I know what it feels like to lose your sense of self while trying to keep the peace, to question your reality after years of gaslighting, to live small because someone else’s moods filled the room. Healing from that kind of experience isn’t tidy or predictable – but it is possible.

At the heart of what I do is communication – real, honest, human connection. Before I became a coach, I worked for many years as a writer and communicator, helping people express complex truths with clarity and grace. Those same skills now shape my coaching: I listen deeply, reflect truthfully, and help clients find language for what they’ve never been able to say out loud. Because naming your truth is the first act of freedom.

I’m also the author of Healing from Narcissistic Abuse: A Practical Guide and Write the Wild Woman into Being – two books that explore voice, recovery, and the courage to come home to yourself.

What I’ve learned, both personally and through my work, is that healing begins the moment you feel safe enough to be seen again. When you use your voice, even if it trembles. When you start trusting your truth more than anyone else’s version of it.

That’s where I meet people: in the space between pain and possibility.

My work isn’t about fixing you. It’s about helping you remember who you were before the world told you to be smaller. Together, we rebuild self-trust, reclaim your voice, and create a life that feels like your own again – grounded, authentic, and free.

Coaching with me

Results & Goals

My clients move from confusion and self-blame into clarity, confidence, and calm.

Together, we:

1. reconnect you with your authentic voice, so you stop shrinking and start expressing.
2. rebuild trust in your instincts, decisions, and emotional truth.
3. develop strong, healthy boundaries and the language to uphold them.
4. restore your sense of direction – so you feel grounded, purposeful, and alive.

The goal of our work isn’t just insight – it’s movement. I believe every session should end with something practical: a tool, a reflection, or a small action that helps you keep growing between sessions.

How I like to coach

My style is intuitive, honest, and deeply practical. I don’t believe in endless talking without traction. Each session is a balance of reflection and action – you’ll be supported and challenged, heard and held accountable.

We’ll work through:

1. Story and Pattern Awareness – exploring how past experiences shaped your self-beliefs and relationships.
2. Emotional Regulation and Healing Tools – nervous-system work, journaling, and grounding practices.
3. Voice and Boundary Work – learning how to speak truth with calm confidence.
4. Forward Momentum – each session ends with intentional steps and reflection prompts, so your healing translates into daily life.

My clients often say our work feels both deeply human and refreshingly practical – emotional healing, but with direction.

Because you don’t just need to understand what happened – you need to move through it, into a life that finally feels like your own.

Experience, Certifications & Training

Certifications and Degrees

• Life Coaching
• Christian Counselling
• Marketing Management
• Creative Writing

Training and development

• Art Therapy

Professional and life experience

I have extensive experience helping individuals and leaders find their authentic voice. Whether through coaching, training, or mentoring, I’ve guided people to articulate their ideas with clarity and confidence, uncovering the stories and perspectives that make them unique. I’ve trained leaders to communicate powerfully in public and private settings, worked closely with teams to build authentic engagement, and ghostwritten for professionals who wanted their true voice captured on the page. I’m passionate about drawing out the real stories beneath surface-level narratives, helping people connect more deeply with themselves and their audiences.

Fee description

I offer a free 20-minute discovery call so you can get a feel for how I work and whether this approach is right for you. It’s a relaxed, no-pressure conversation – a space to talk about where you are, what you’d like to shift, and how we might begin that journey together.

Coaching sessions are 60 minutes, held online or in-person, and priced at R850 per session.

Most clients choose a package, which provides structure, momentum, and deeper transformation over time:

1. 3-Session Starter Package – R2 400
2. Perfect if you’re seeking clarity on a specific challenge or want to test the waters before committing long-term.
3. 6-Session Deep Dive – R4 500
4. Designed for clients who are ready to go deeper – rebuilding self-trust, healing patterns, and creating lasting change.

Each session includes tailored tools, reflections, and “homework” to support practical progress between meetings. I also offer flexible scheduling for clients in different time zones.

Accessibility and Gift Options

I believe healing should be within reach for anyone who’s ready to do the work. A limited number of reduced-fee spaces are available for students or clients experiencing financial hardship. Gift sessions can also be arranged for loved ones who might need a gentle starting point in their healing journey.

You don’t have to have everything figured out – the first step is simply a conversation.