Leah Spasova

Psychologist Specialising in Sex & Relationships

Oxford, United Kingdom

Helping individuals and couples get unstuck and get the intimate and romantic life they dream of.

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from $$115.00 USD to $$140.00 USD

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About Me

Tired of feeling frustrated, lonely, unfulfilled — or like you’re repeating the same relationship patterns no matter how much you try to break them?

It can feel like you’re carrying a heavy backpack you never packed: you didn’t choose what’s in it, yet you’re the one expected to hike with it every day.

If you’ve been “doing the work” — reading the books, reflecting, trying to communicate better, even doing therapy before — and you’re still stuck, it means you never got the complete map for the life-changes you dream of.

Many people leave therapy session with as much insight as they got from a 3min Reel video by another wellness guru, but without the highly relevant to them life, sex and relationships education, practical skills, and emotional safety needed to actually live differently.

This is where my approach is different and delivering results in ways that collapse timelines and make sustainable changes part of daily life, and long-term.

I work on three levels, because lasting change usually needs all three:

1) Education (Know better): you can’t do better if you don’t know better. Many people were never taught anything about what healthy relationships look like, how to experience deep and profound intimate pleasure, how to express emotional needs and sexual desires, or how to set boundaries, repair conflict, or walk into relationships with clarity and self-respect. Hence, in sessions we build understanding, language, and frameworks that finally make your experiences, relationships and desires make sense.

2) Skills + practice (Do better): insight is not the same as ability. Together, we translate what you’re learning into practical tools — communication skills, boundary-setting, emotional regulation, relational strategies — and we make it usable in real life, not just “in theory.”

3) Deep emotional healing (Feel safe enough): even when you know better and know what to do, the parts of you that are still hurting, carrying old wounds and afraid can freeze or shut you down, or even make you want to run for the hills even when you know (on a rational and logical level) that you are safe. That's why in sessions, we work with the underlying emotional blocks — the fear, shame, grief, resentment, betrayal, anger, or protective patterns — so you’re not fighting yourself every time you try to change.

I’ve been supporting people with relationships and sexuality since 2007, and no story can faze me. You can feel safe - I'll get you. I will understand and not judge one bit. This is your journey — a space where you can finally be honest, and where the work actually moves you in the right direction.

We can work with whatever sits closest to your heart.

Are you struggling with intimacy, desire, or confidence? Curious about kink, swinging, or expanding your erotic world? Considering opening your relationship — or needing support to do it well? Or maybe the starting point is harder: finding a partner, rebuilding trust, or learning how to feel safe in love again.

This work tends to suit people who are ready for change — not “someday,” but now. Especially those who feel they’ve tried and don’t want to keep living this way anymore. If you’re committed and engaged in the process, progress can be surprisingly fast and tangible — because you'll finally be fully equipped with the knowledge, skills and healing needed to design and embrace your dream life.

If you’re curious you can learn more about my work, read reviews and book a FREE 30-minute Discovery Call

During your Discovery Call we will explore what you need, whether I’m the right fit, and if not, I’ll happily assist you in finding a better match or service for your needs.

Offerings

Coaching

Sessions are 60 minutes and payment is in Great British Pounds (GBP). You can pay as you go, or choose a package if you’d like to save and build momentum. To keep things straightforward (and to reduce decision fatigue), individual and couples sessions are the same price — no complicated tiers, no surprise fees.

If paying upfront isn’t ideal, you can use interest-free instalments so you can focus on your growth without adding financial stress.

Courses

Because change doesn’t happen only in sessions, I help clients to integrate what we’re doing in session and what they enage in outside of sessions - be it reading books, listening to podcasts or else.

As a client of mine, you’ll receive free access to my integration mini-course — a practical guide to help you learn effectively, apply insights in real life, and get more value from the work. It also helps you make sense of any resources I recommend (books, videos, podcasts, exercises), so you’re not just consuming information — you’re actually turning it into change.

If you want a private, structured space for your journey, I can also onboard you onto my coaching platform, where you can keep session notes, reflections, and action steps in one place (especially helpful if you like organisation and clarity).

And if writing is your forte, as many clients find it helpful to track patterns, progress, and wellbeing over time — I also offer a well-structured journal designed for session notes, check-ins, and self-reflection. It’s there to support consistency, deepen insight, and help you see your growth more clearly.

Digital Products

For additional resources, products, and support options, you’re welcome to explore my website — I’m continuously building practical tools that make this kind of work easier to apply in everyday life.

Experience, Certifications & Training

Certifications and Degrees

Psychology and Counselling
Advanced Master Program on the Treatment of Trauma
Parts Work / Internal Family Systems
Conflict Resolution
Motivational Interviewing
Ascentis Level 3 Award in Education & Training

Fee description

Fees: from $$115.00 USD to $$140.00 USD

Complimentary Discovery Call

Pay As You Go

Packages & Session Bundles

Payment In Installments

Reviews

Read verified client reviews from real customers.

Aswin

Good Guru of Love, Lust and Pleasure

As a therapist, Leah is very insightful & knowledgeable in the subject of love and lust and sex and relationships. As a person, she is super smart, bold, gutsy & kind at same time. During conversations, she makes you feel so comfortable that you can share anything with her like a helpful good friend. Her homeworks revolves around new techniques and tips to enhance lovemaking and pleasure. Hence it's the best homework you can dream for :) You will never get bored/tired of this homework :) As an astronomer, I have shown the stars and heavens to my girlfriend(s) using conventional telescopes before. But working with Leah has helped me to show brighter stars and more intense heavens to my girlfriend with my own telescope :) There is a significant improvement in the quality of sex life after learning new tips and tricks from her and from the resources she shares with her clients. I highly recommend this super sassy & classy young girl for anyone who wants to spice up their love life more than ever before. She is a good guru of love & lust who will make you learn and grow with pleasure! Plus a great role model for other girls out there. Now go & do good Kama + good Karma :)

Victoria P

Immeasurable results

I’ve been working one on one with Leah for several months now and she has helped me to identify areas for introspection and self-improvement so I can acknowledge and rectify unhelpful thought patterns and / or behaviours. The results are immeasurable. We have covered a lot of ground and I’m more self-aware than ever before. As a result of talking to Leah, I am more compassionate and kinder to myself, have claimed back my inner peace and able to live my life authentically. She has also helped me to understand and draw boundaries with important people in my life in a way that is kind and considerate to them but also respects my personal wishes and my space. Leah’s tools, techniques and homework have been impactful and allowed me space outside of our sessions to reflect on conversations while balancing insightful new information / resources. Leah is an attentive listener and has a fabulous way of understanding many topics and isn’t fazed by anything, which is so refreshing. She is honest, not afraid to gently challenge and totally understands and respects where you are coming from, regardless of subject matter. I would definitely recommend Leah to anyone seeking support as she will definitely help you to understand yourself at a deeper level, with more clarity and with greater internal power than ever before.

Holly

Brilliant, compassionate therapist

Leah is a fantastic, passionate and compassionate therapist who has helped my husband and I to pinpoint unhealthy behaviours and thought patterns that have built up over the course of our relationship. With her help, we've turned a real corner in terms of our communication and love life. We're both so pleased we started seeing Leah - without her guidance and insight, we'd definitely still be trapped in a downwards spiral.

Rob Ryan

Very worth it.

As someone who has felt lost, depressed and unworthy, finally taking the step to get the help I needed has finally put me in the right direction and I can clearly see my path in life and have more reason than ever to get out of bed in the morning. It's a lot but worth every penny. The mini-course was especially helpful in learning to implement healthy changes in order to help with my self-growth. I still have a long way to go but so far the only annoyance I have is not doing this sooner

Mark King

Become who you are

Thanks to Leah's help/guidance, I've been able to process a lot of internalised shame about sex and BDSM that goes back to my childhood. My earliest memories are of tying myself up, imagining I was being tortured etc. for reasons I can barely comprehend now, I've spent my whole life trying to "fix" myself and hiding my kinks from everyone, including my partner of 20 years... gradually my vanilla sex life died, I just couldn't fake it any more and I sought some help. Leah helped me get OK/confident with who I was, before coming out to my partner. I realised that she didn't truly know who I was and I owed it to both of us to let her see all of me. I was prepared for the worst, but at a point where because I wasn't ashamed of it, knew that there was nothing wrong with me (just something wrong with how I'd behaved for 20 years by hiding it), that ultimately - it would be OK. As it turned out, she was completely accepting of me. I'm an idiot for not coming out sooner - inflicting 20 years of sub-par sex on the pair of us. For the first time in my life I made myself vulnerable to someone and they think I'm OK exactly as I am, in fact, they think I'm better when not carrying around guilt and self-loathing. It turns out I'm a lot more fun to be around, when I'm not expending significant mental effort on trying to change/hide a fundamental part of who I am. Become who you're meant to be, and if you can't, find someone like Leah who can guide you there!

Dale

Growth journey

We’ve only been working with Leah for a short time but already she has given us a far greater insight and clarity into areas of growth. We’ve faced challenges with opening up our relationship to others. Leah has identified the root causes to these challenges, giving us a pathway to navigate to build a relationship to support both our needs. Leah shares personal experiences, which help develop our understanding. She strives to avoid dependency upon her support which is an admirable objective. She balances perfectly empathy and compassion with brutal honesty and clear actions. Her growth journey course also shifted our thinking, giving us many more tools to help us act on learning material we are absorbing in an effective way. We are thoroughly enjoying working with Leah and are so pleased she is giving us the guidance to springboard our growth.

Savannah

I never felt like therapy had a lasting…

I never felt like therapy had a lasting effect or change for me. I would frequent therapists who would listen to my thoughts and feelings for an hour. During that hour it felt great to spew all of my tribulations out and for the therapist to encouragingly nod their head, adding reassuring words throughout the session. Afterwords I would feel OK for a day or two but I never felt like I was improving myself or resolving anything. I was mostly just left with the feeling of paying someone to listen to me rant... and well, I already had friends I could do that with for free. Therapy started to feel like a waste of time and money so I decided I'd be better off without it. A year or so later I really felt like I needed some real effective help to manage my inner struggles. This time I did extensive research and came across Leah's website. Honestly with my previous experience in therapy I was a tad skeptical but when I saw that she did a "get to know you" to see if she could actually help you call, I decided to take the leap (and I'm so happy I did). Leah listened to me but she didn't always nod her head in agreement, nor did she always say reassuring words to support my delusion. Leah gave me the (sometimes) hard truth, she showed me what I needed to see in myself in order for me to grow. She gave me the tools that I needed to manage my inner struggles on my own. Because of Leah, for the first time in my life I can actually manage my struggles and some of these struggles have completely gone away. I feel balanced and much more secure in myself. My only regret is not finding her sooner! I wish I could have met Leah 10 years ago so that I wouldn't have felt like I wasted so much time. Better now than never though! Thanks Leah!!

Derek

Inciteful and Encouraging

Leah has been helping me with my personal development for about 18 months now. It has been an amazing experience! In particular she is helping me with my sex life and my social interactions. I have learned such a lot about myself and am finding it much easier to find my way through the world. Even though I am now in my seventies, I've come to realise that I still have a lot to learn. I count myself as very lucky to have found Leah to help me on this journey.

Star

Move forward in a meaningful way

As someone who has been in therapy for years and worked with different therapists along the way, I can truly say that Leah is different, and that difference is exactly what I needed. At first, I was hesitant to work with her. Let’s be honest, opening up to someone new is never easy, especially when you have had past experiences with other therapists. I was a bit skeptical, but Leah connected with me in a way I didn’t expect. She brought in her own helpful experiences and life advice, which made me feel truly heard and seen. To me, that was so important because it didn’t feel like there was a wall between me and “the therapist.” I worked with Leah for a relatively short time (around three months), and in that time, I accomplished more than I thought possible. My biggest challenges were trust issues, feeling like a mom in my then-relationship (people-pleasing), and self-esteem issues. I can confidently say that my people-pleasing has gone down to the minimal. My self-esteem has improved, and I now have a better understanding of where my trust issues come from. Some topics are still a work in progress, but I am confident I can get to the point where I want to be. Her approach worked so well for me because she goes deep, challenges you (and personally, I need that little push), and offers tips and exercises that are Practical and Doable. She gives great examples that make it easier to actually apply what you are learning in your daily life.

Rhian

A different approach

My sessions with Leah were different to any other therapy I've had in the past. They encouraged me to take a more active role in my recovery/discovery journey, which ultimately empowered me more and gave me a stronger sense of optimism and hope about my future. Most importantly the sessions gave me tangible tools to use in everyday life and all my relationships. Felt like the cloud lifted and I could think clearly and positively again.

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